One of the most amazing social changes is the rise of online dating and the decline of other ways of meeting a romantic partner. So it’s no surprise our screens are becoming the first place we turn to when looking for romance — because you need someone to take care of you when you get food poisoning on your vacation, right?People filter too much; they’d be better off vetting dates in person.“Online dating is just a vehicle to meet more people,” says the author and dating consultant Laurie Davis.
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In 1940, 24 percent of heterosexual romantic couples in the United States met through family, 21 percent through friends, 21 percent through school, 13 percent through neighbors, 13 percent through church, 12 percent at a bar or restaurant and 10 percent through co-workers.
(Some categories overlapped.)By 2009, half of all straight couples still met through friends or at a bar or restaurant, but 22 percent met online, and all other sources had shrunk.
A recent study led by the Northwestern psychologist Eli J.
Finkel argues that no mathematical algorithm can predict whether two people will make a good couple.As Christian Rudder, an Ok Cupid co-founder, tells it, women who were rated very attractive were unlikely to respond to men rated less attractive.But when they were matched on Crazy Blind Date, they had a good time. Rudder puts it, “people appear to be heavily preselecting online for something that, once they sit down in person, doesn’t seem important to them.”Some of what we learned about effective photos on Ok Cupid was predictable: Women who flirt for the camera or show cleavage are quite successful.” “Have you ever traveled around another country alone?” and “Wouldn’t it be fun to chuck it all and go live on a sailboat?TOO MUCH FILTERING The Internet offers a seemingly endless supply of people who are single and looking to date, as well as tools to filter and find exactly what you’re looking for.