But after years of plastic surgery and progressive skin-bleaching, and who only knows what she’s done to her hair, she’s not black any more.Kim, who seems like a genuinely sweet, if vulnerable woman, explained back in 2000 that she’d always been told by men – “even the ones I was dating” – that she wasn’t pretty enough. But I doubt there was a single black person on this earth – male or female – who didn’t look at Lil’ Kim’s new, white face and feel a deep, inscrutable pain.
Those books did for me what no amount of reconstructive surgery could have done.
Fanon, a psychiatrist from the French West Indies, wrote about the psychology of blackness as a legacy of colonisation and white supremacy.
Unfortunately I understand all too well how Lil’ Kim (or Lil’ Vim, as someone I know unkindly dubbed her – referencing a brand of “extra-whitening” scouring powder) has ended up the way she has.
Kim and I are the same age; when I was a little girl, I also wanted to be white.
We can bleat about “intersectionality” and “patriarchy”. But just for a moment, let’s not blame anyone for the fact that Lil Kim has such a compromised self-image – and let’s not [equate Kim]( with Rachel Dolezal, the white NAACP leader who purported to be black, last year claiming a controversial “transracial” identity.
Dolezal may have permed her hair but she never changed her features or her skin tone, nor was she filled with tragic self-loathing. For now, let’s just accept all this without trying to blame anyone.
The source claims that Kim has been seen kissing and cuddling close to Maino recently at a club appearance where he was allegedly overheard talking about engagement plans with the Queen Bee.
Even though they are far apart in age (he is reportedly 19, and she is 40), they make a good fit if he doesn’t mind babysitting her toddler, Royal Reign.
For anyone who doesn’t know Lil Kim, she isn’t a teenage Instagram model – born Kimberley Jones in 1974, she’s one of the most successful female rappers the world has ever seen.