My queer friends have also had bad experiences dating other women. Her phone held dozens of similar messages, and the woman only stopped harassing Zoe when she was no longer single.
It sparked a heated conversation between me and my coworkers (all of us were on the side that this man and his letter were pretty clueless, btw). Plus plenty of terrible first dates with women who stared at their phones instead of, you know, actually talking to me.
But in talking about how awful heterosexual gender dynamics can be, the conversation took a tired turn I've heard too many times. It's not just that I have terrible luck (though it definitely felt that way for a while).
I was young and naive and had already hooked up with women, so why not go the next step and see if I would have any success in dating them?
My first opportunity arose when I met Sarah at a bar called Niagara in NYC's East Village.
As a teenager, I was occasionally attracted to girls, but was drawn to relationships with the opposite sex.
While I dated and hooked up with guys, I had a flirtation or two with female friends that extended to a few hot makeout sessions and awkward sexual encounters.At 22, reeling from a string of fruitless, lackluster, and abusive relationships with men, I finally took the plunge and went on my first date with a woman.I had listened to fed-up straight friends dramatically swear off men for years, saying that "switching sides" might be the answer to their dating woes.It's 2018 and just about everyone is using online dating apps, regardless of their sexual orientation or gender identity.So why are all of the most popular apps still designed with only straight people in mind?The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention found that 44% of lesbian women and 61% of bisexual women have experienced rape, physical violence, or stalking by a partner, compared to 35% of straight women.