Our brain prioritizes rejection experiences because we are social animals who live in "tribes." This leads to an aspect about rejection we often overlook… Rejection destabilizes our "Need to Belong." We all have a fundamental need to belong to a group. issued a report stating that rejection was a greater risk for adolescent violence than drugs, poverty, or gang membership.
This girl felt rejected that I didn't identify as Vietamese, her race! I don't know how that can be, when my parents are Chinese..last name is even Chinese..WTF!!! So that's why a lot of INTROVERTS prefer to be left alone...drama is not healthy!
There's also extroverts who simply can't accept NO --- like, I stopped letting this co-worker bum off car rides from me once I figured out that she specifically changed her work-shift schedule to coincide with mine!
f MRI studies show that the same areas of the brain become activated when we experience rejection as when we experience physical pain.
This is why rejection hurts so much (neurologically speaking).
In our hunter/gatherer past, being ostracized from our tribes was akin to a death sentence, as we were unlikely to survive for long alone.
Evolutionary psychologists assume the brain developed an early warning system to alert us when we were at risk for ostracism. We can relive and re-experience social pain more vividly than we can physical pain.
We often respond to romantic rejections by finding fault in ourselves, bemoaning all our inadequacies, kicking ourselves when we’re already down, and smacking our self-esteem into a pulp.
Most romantic rejections are a matter of poor fit and a lack of chemistry, incompatible lifestyles, wanting different things at different times, or other such issues of mutual dynamics. Participants were put through an experiment in which they were rejected by strangers.
Let’s begin by examining why rejection hurts as much as it does: 1.