Most guys have heard enough horror stories to know that tying the knot isn’t going to make a woman any less likely to cheat or leave, so there’s a general attitude that it’s not to our advantage to risk half of our income on the chance that everything works out.
(Quick insert here: I’ve gotten LOTS of comments that there are many marriages where the woman makes more money than the man and she ends up getting financially screwed.
The problem is, there are many considerations that guys have to make that you need to consider too. Personally, I don’t plan on getting married until I’m ready to start a family.
When you can understand why a guy might have reservations to getting married (or at least, might not be motivated to get married), it will help you communicate better and ultimately get you to a place where you may both decide it’s time for marriage. That’s just my personal view and I’m not suggesting or projecting that anyone else should share it.
I’ve met plenty of women who are in a hurry to get married.
And I understand the reasons: biological clock, all your friends are married, you feel like “it’s time”, you want to have final commitment, etc.
In fact, this fear makes many guys avoid marriage like the plague…
The fear for guys is that it’s going to be a really crappy deal if things fall apart.Please understand that I get that and I’m not saying that last part to be sexist or “old fashioned”.I’m just sharing how many guys think about marriage.) Plus, for the guy it’s not like he’s not getting love or sex beforehand.Also, I think it would be in your best interest to relax and wait for him to propose marriage to you. Aside from him probably feeling insulted by the gesture, can you imagine if he did go for it?Every time you have an argument he’d think back to how he felt coerced into marriage and pressured by you. If you get impatient, it’s going to block your ability to be empathetic and understanding towards him.You can’t force a man to marry you, but you certainly can inspire a man to… – eric charles Hey I was wondering what I should do I have been in a long term relationship with my boyfriend for 11years we have two kids together and I have asked him to marry me and all I get from him r answers like it is dumb, and it won’t change anything if we get marryied. We live in an era where a lot of couples (even the ones you don’t expect it from) break up and have to rebuild a life on their own.