When you get set up with someone through a friend, meet him for drinks, dinner or coffee and have no clue what you’re getting yourself into, that is a blind date.First dates bring with them complications all their own, but blind dates make the first date all the more, well, complicated.Of course, so do the words “the gym” and “fat free,” but I endure the pain that comes with both. Before I hop up on my soapbox and make my case for blind dates and how they aren’t so terrible after all, let’s get clear about what a blind date is.
I stopped worrying whether we would have nothing to talk about or that it would be boring. But set a time limit There’s bound to be one dud for every seven dudes you meet.
Practice means becoming a better conversationalist.
"That sounds like it's going to be highly entertaining viewing."We've done more vetting, in terms of more checks on social media, and more checks on who, what, where, when – and at the end of the day, if someone wants to come in and say they're single when they're not, that's on them," Nadia explained.
Nadia also recently revealed that Calum Best was the "one of the worst" celebrities this series."He came in with all the banter, all the chat, and literally the first few dates are horrendous because he just can't get it together," she said.
Get in and get out, unless of course you’re enjoying yourself. Don’t be a Debbie downer On the topic of bad dates, I learned there is one thing you should never do on a first date. Don’t complain about your ex, your bad day at work, your noisy neighbours, your living situation, your bad hair or the lack of drink options on the menu. No one wants to feel like a therapist, unless they are actually being paid to be one.
Be patient, get to know the person bit by bit and let yourself sing Que Sera Sera.
Usually, the date is preceded by a phone conversation and you two agree to meet at some public place and describe what you’ll be wearing so you can recognize one another. You will either have an amazing time, or you will be mortified the entire evening, counting the seconds until you can get away.
There never seems to be a middle ground in these situations.
I didn’t like those moments before a first date filled with nervous anticipation and the “what ifs” that worried my mind. What if in the light of day (after having exchanged numbers while drunk at a bar), he finds me unattractive? And somehow my friend Jessica convinced me to go on seven blind dates — that meant no photos, no background information and in some instances, not even a name! What started as a fun summer project with a friend — her finding potential dates and us blogging about these setups — became a serious eye-opener for me. Give a different guy a chance I had an idea of the type of guy I thought would make my best match and that was bad for two reasons. Let your mom/friend/aunt set you up Your aunt wants to set you up with her next door neighbour? Too often we dismiss potential dates because we don’t trust other people’s judgments about what’s right for us. Instead, trust that they have your best interest at heart, accept their help and give them — and him — a chance. Practice makes perfect Each date became easier and easier to go on.