Gerald Rogers’ article stirred a wide variety of feelings among people across the globe. We read letters from women in Malaysia comforting women in England.The unity and compassion among people which this article brought forth was a beautiful experience to witness. One common idea reverberated among many of the healthy responses: If we make the conscious decision to daily place our spouse’s desires and needs above our own, and that’s reciprocated, the marriage will succeed. The advice in this article can be applied to both genders. But there’s something about my divorce being finalized this week that gives me perspective of things I wish I would have done different… When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man that would OWN HER HEART and to fiercely protect it.PART 6: Growing in Intimacy » In matters of dating or courtship, I generally recommend that people either get married or break up within a year or so of beginning a dating relationship.
when you heal yourself, you will no longer be triggered by her, and you will wonder why you ever were.8.
Allow your woman to When she’s sad or upset, it’s not your job to fix it, it’s your job to HOLD HER and let her know it’s ok. Fill her soul everyday…learn her love languages and the specific ways that she feels important and validated and CHERISHED. To carry her away in the power of your masculine presence, to consume her and devour her with your strength, and to penetrate her to the deepest levels of her soul.
Always see the best in her Focus only on what you love. If you focus on what bugs you, all you will see is reasons to be bugged.
If you focus on what you love, you can’t help but be consumed by love.
Keep that space always ready to receive her and invite her in, and refuse to let anyone or anything else enter there.3.
Fall in love over and over again You will constantly change.She needs that space to renew and get re-centered, and to find herself after she gets lost in serving you, the kids and the world.)15.Be vulnerable…You don’t have to have it all together. But these are lessons I am learning and committed in carrying forward.SHE DOESN’T HAVE TO STAY WITH YOU, and if you don’t take care of her heart, she may give that heart to someone else or seal you out completely, and you may never be able to get it back.Always fight to win her love just as you did when you were courting her.4.Sometimes she will need to fly from your branches to go and find what feeds her soul, and if you give her that space she will come back with new songs to sing.(Okay, getting a little too poetic here, but you get the point.