With my 40th birthday around the corner, I felt this immense pressure to meet someone.But in the process, I had handed over my self-esteem to something else external, approval of the opposite sex.According to Chase Jarvis, we’re moving towards a portfolio model of careers, a world in which kids growing up today will probably have five jobs at the same time.
Managing our psychology is essential to navigating what one of my mentors referred to as a world of diminishing permanence.
We have to deal with highs and lows, not tie our self-worth to external events and circumstances, and in the midst of that somehow show up in the world as a fully functional, not completely screwed up human being. Instead, we objectify students with letter grades, test scores, and the pressure of acceptance to prestigious colleges.
Burritos are our mothers, brothers, sisters, and best friends, and this goes for 5. And if you give us shit for using the word hella, we're gonna hella walk right out of your life. You might buy a bikini for vacation but we buy them because it's Tuesday and we can wear it as a top. Northern California hates Southern California but Southern California DGAF about Northern California and actually thinks it's rather lovely.
(Just don't forget a jacket, mittens, a scarf, and your wooliest hat.) (And maybe some rain boots, depending on the fog situation.) 2. When I moved from California to NYC for college, the coffee cart guy told me to "go away" after I said, "Have a nice day! " to a woman in Washington Square Park and she responded with, "What do you want? " because I'm from California and that's what we do. We love burritos and will eat them for every meal if given the chance. We own more bathing suits than is necessary or healthy.
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Or something less drastic; just don't make fun of us for it because that's tired and you're better than that.6. We can go from bed to beach in 10 minutes flat, even if that beach is Ocean Beach in San Francisco and we're wearing a Thinsulate coat and have tiny heating pads in our mittens.7. I own 12 pairs of flip-flips and each pair is essential to my life. (Our company's dress code is "so freaking casual you have no idea")14. Don't judge until you feel the magic of green juice coursing through your veins! Here's how it is: Southern California is like, "OMG, I LOVE Frisco!This pattern will keep repeating in our lives until we come to terms with the fact that our self-worth can’t be gained through external means.As long as we continue to seek our self-worth through something external, it will always fluctuate.When one problem gets solved, another one shows up. Not only did it happen, but I also ended up 2 minutes away from the beach where I’d wanted to live ever since I caught a wave there nine years ago.In the years that I was building Unmistakable Creative, being able to move out of my parent's house was the elephant in the room. I was getting paid to speak, traveling all over the country, and writing my second book with a publisher. It became my new normal and another problem took over, dating.Yes, the rules are a little different based on your exact location — California is a large and varied state — but these are some things that are true for all of us.