You felt all those chemical reactions and a strong desire to be together, maybe felt an almost overwhelming attraction for each other.
If you are like most of us, you experienced this more than once in life, perhaps many times before you eventually found the one you committed to spending your life with.
You must also consider that it is also possible that you and your spouse can fall in love with each other again as events and circumstances change, which living on this planet almost assures will happen.
Research shows that between 3 and 5 percent of affairs end in marriage.
When other statistics are thrown in, that any at all do is little short of miraculous.
Once it happens to us, there is nothing we can do about it except submit to the crazy ride that follows.
I’d like you to consider another model for “real love.” In this model, real love is a shared experience and history combined with an agreement to care for each other, and provide for each other’s welfare and happiness.
* As relates to sacrifice, often one will discover (or feel) that his or her sacrifice was much greater than what the other person had to sacrifice, and this can lead to resentment and disillusionment.
* Sacrifice is one factor that sometimes drives an affair.Evolutionary psychologists might say that all of these things (and a lot of other things that happen during this phase of romance) make selection of a mate more probable.They can also lead to obsession, depression and other symptoms of what would typically indicate mental illness.In books and movies, even on television, people fall in love almost against their will and often with the most inappropriate partners–and at times, even less appropriate.Falling in love is sometimes portrayed as something beyond our control, overpowering, something we are helpless to resist.That likely does not make you feel any better about the situation you are facing, but it is something you should keep in mind as you try to decide what you are going to do.