I’ve gotten into a new small groups before, and I can tell from the leader that there will be intense pressure to talk about lust.Lust can become magnified as if it’s the only real issue. I have a childhood memory of going to a church conference and doing one of those “head bowed and eyes closed” things where I tentatively raised my hand and committed my dirty, sex-crazed teenage mind to God. These experiences shaped what I’ve come to call ‘sin management.” That management is what God is most interested in, that we manage our sin, in much the same way that the Pharisees worked hard to help the Israelites manage every area of their lives.
One day I will write a tell all about my crazy childhood and make an impact in the world.
Until then, I'll gladly write random fiction and erotica that allows you to venture to the darker part of my mind. I don't want my mom reading my dirty sex novels, and trust me she would.
Can you recall all those reasons we were told to wait? Wait to have sex because if you don’t you’ll suffer the consequences: STDs, pregnancy, lack of intimacy later, hell, fear of infidelity later, shame, displeasing God. But is the threat of consequences really the best motivating factor. Fear works, but it’s a bit off from the motivation in 1 John, “Perfect love casts out fear.” So what kind of love motivation can you give people who want to keep their sex life and their marriage life in sync?
So then someone has sex and doesn’t feel bad or doesn’t get pregnant or get an STD or has a raucous time and a wonderful marriage and where does that leave these peeps? You can start with simple value for your private parts and where they go, what they do as a way to maintain personal health.
Being single and dealing with sexual desire is a complicated and lonely journey.
In the church, most sexual desire conversations begin and end with lust.
I’ve been helped by thinking about the verse, “You were bought at a price therefore honor God with your body” (1 Cor ).
I think of a child of a single mother who works three jobs and wears herself out so that she can send her kid to college. As I’ve written about before, sanctity, celibacy, holiness all require setting something apart. Celibacy means you face your hunger for sex as if you trusted that God called this hunger good.
I was writing erotica before I was old enough to know what I was doing. I work for a prestigious marketing company by day and write dirty sex novels at night.
I have a family of my own and a Yorkie that is attached to my hip.
She quickly used those skills to forge ahead, creating a place not only in the world, but in the new government controlling the land as well.