Much has changed in the last thirty years, and those in my study are still reporting general satisfaction in their marriages.
There is actually a lower divorce rate now than in the 80s, and what marriage means on a societal level is also changing.
You might even be filling your thoughts with anxiety and frustration about the future of your relationship.
And pressing someone for marriage might be brushing over the issues that keep him from proposing in the first place.
Couples who have more conflict in a long courtship often deteriorate faster after marriage, and if you are already fighting or tense because of this issue, it might be best to address it now.
Only time will tell how modern marriages are growing and changing from those started long ago.
What do these timelines mean for you still waiting for your man to propose?
Before bringing up the proposal conversation, ask yourself these four questions: Can you accept your relationship as it is, and remove/ give-up the expectation of marriage?
Many women are interested in getting married simply because it’s validated by society, but that doesn’t mean you have to have a ring in order to be happy and have children.Is there a difference between couples that met recently and those in Huston’s study?Currently I co-run a longitudinal study of marriage and family development, started in 2008 and ongoing, and the answers couples gave me about their engagement ranged from several months to several years.Many couples are choosing to cohabit as an alternative to or dress rehearsal for marriage.Research is mixed as to whether couples who live together prior to marriage are as satisfied as those that waited until after marriage.They have seemingly great mates who have jobs and call their moms and open doors to restaurants- but haven’t yet popped the question.