Ever seen one of those relationships where both people just 100% totally understand what the other person needs all the time, and both partners just effortlessly read minds and live in perfect harmony? It’s hard to know what the healthy boundaries in relationships are.Which is why here I’m going to discuss: (a) why boundaries matter, (b) how to practice setting boundaries in relationships, and (c) the best way to communicate them.
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Then those phrases start sounding so empty, and not really consoling – more like irritating and in the end, they make you feel even worse. You have to admit it to yourself, you have to own it.
Because they reinforce that feeling of helplessness – there is nothing you can do – except hope. You have to stop blaming others: parents, your childhood, high school misfortune, better looking friends, that one guy/girl who rejected you when you were 13, your environment, circumstances, the fact you live in a small town and there’s nobody to choose from, the fact you’re too busy to go on dates.
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I’m talking about the rest of us who truly want to have that special someone, and feel that is a part of life they’d rather not be without.
And if you’ve never ever been in a relationship – it’s only natural to wonder why, and ask yourself: Will I ever find someone? But I understand how hard it is to feel alone and lonely, with nothing to hold on to – how can you hope for something to happen when it’s never happened to you? I will instead give you something you can work with, something that will change your perspective and get you moving in the right direction.
It makes them feel angry, unfairly treated, and less likely to take your criticism seriously.
So make sure you focus on what they did, rather than criticising .
That’s when it’s time to set your boundaries and make it clear what you expect in future. When this happens, be very clear about what bothered you. “When you arrive late all the time, it makes me feel like you don’t value my time, which then makes me feel angry. I don’t mind it once in a while, but when it keeps happening it becomes really frustrating…” That way you’re communicating, (a) what you’re feeling, and (b) how he can change to solve the problem.